Interesting... What I have to stay about her situation. Birds of a feather, flock together. Seriously. I use to tell my SiL that the reason why she finds ****s in her life is that she hangs out with hahaes. If she wants a change in scenery and outcome then she has to stop hanging out with certain people at certain places (clubs).
TRUTH: We find a reflection of ourselves in our life.
BIAS: We think we are good, and everyone else is less.
CONFOUNDER: We marginalize our bad, and we magnify the bad in others.
Solution: Reject bias, and reject confounder. Seek coherence, consistency, and congruence.
Outcome: she stopped hanging out with certain people, and going to certain places. She has found genuine and authentic friends who uplift and empower her. They all have very similar values and belief. She can be herself and not have to fake the funk. She now has congruency in her life, she can behave with consistency, and now her life has coherence. She is a much happier person to be around today.