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Re: I Love Hmong Boys
« Reply #15 on: July 11, 2019, 12:47:54 AM »
But it's so much faster to jump to the finish line!  :P You mean I can't?   :D ;D

Anyway, I know you were generalizing and not making your remarks directly at me.  But I just want to say again that I am not looking because I know that if a person is meant to be he will come naturally in his own way and in his own time.  I'm super busy with my life to be in a relationship right now.  It was just a thought I had, where if I were to meet someone in the future I'd hoped that he'd be the kind of Hmong man that I envisioned in my head for him to be. And I would want him to be Hmong because then we'd share the same background and that would create an instant understanding and connection between us.

I don't have high expectations at all.  Just that he and I have chemistry, that he's a good man, is an ambitious, responsible, loving and caring person.

Oh, I was never into bad guys.  I was into nerds.  But I did blow off some other guys to be with this other guy who I thought was "nicer than all the rest".  But you never really know someone, do you?  Even when you think you know them and you think they are a nice guy, they can turn out to be a nightmare.  People can be playing mind games like what Gracified was teaching and hide who they really are so that you only find out who they really are after they've wasted so much of your time!



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« Reply #16 on: July 11, 2019, 12:52:33 AM »
I love my Hmong boys, and I'll tell you why.

Because Hmong boys eat rice like me.  They grew up on pork and zaub ntsuab soup, boiled chicken (qaib vom), and know about and have ate qaib with Hmong herbs, and other common Hmong dishes, including pepper with cilantro/onion/lime.  There is just such a comforting feeling in knowing that you have a deep connection with each other because you grew up on the same food.  I love that I can conversate in Hmong with my Hmong boys. Even if they speak English more, they still understand and can speak Hmong with me.  They know what it's like when Hmong people ua neeb and hu plig even if they and I may not practice doing those things.  They know how Hmong parties are: chaotic, crowded, lively, and filled with lots of good food.  They know how annoying "Hmong time" can be but know that it's to be expected.  They are familiar with the Hmong customs and traditions, and know how Hmong weddings and funerals are like.  They've heard of and understand what it means when people say "tsov tom" (tiger bite) and "daj ntseg" (yellow ear) and other funny Hmong phrases.

There are just so many commonalities and it's just such a nice and comforting feeling to know you share a deep level of understanding and connection because you come from the same background.

BUT, I feel that my friends and my uncle may be right.  At my age there are not a lot of options if I am wanting just a Hmong boy.  If I want a Hmong boy that is a good person who's successful and single and who's my age, they're basically saying to me "good luck."  I'm not saying that I am looking because I am not in any hurry.  I'm just saying that if a man of another race has everything that I want, except for not being Hmong, I will be so sad.  Because my heart belongs with a Hmong boy.  But I know the possibility is there that I may not end up with a Hmong boy.  And this thought makes me sad.   :'(
why you keep say Hmong Boy?. Why not Hmong Menz?
Kinda odd unless ur a cougar or a Milf?. Lmao
I can not eat too much Americanized foods. I gotta have my hmong Zaub and wat not. I do my own Garden in my backyard.
I grow wat I want to eat. I got beans, onions, and Zaub, this year.
But I normally grow squash. As I love 'em boil with sugar. And keep it in the frige to be super cold. Then pour it over rice with a little piece of meat on the side with pepper.

I do my own cooking. I don't wait for someone to cook for me.



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Re: I Love Hmong Boys
« Reply #17 on: July 11, 2019, 06:04:35 AM »
When we express our desires for our own personal racial ethnicity as first dibs is that it's rooted within us.  It's biological encoded within us to be attracted to similar qualities and familiar characteristic s.  Now understandably we all as individuals do seek that individualism and we should embrace that too.  We are not cookie cutter people, we have our uniqueness about ourselves and often times seek what would compliment and complement ourselves, our needs, our wants.

When we refer to boys and girls, we are reflecting on our past experiences on those.  Semantic memory is what makes us who we are today and helps us makes our current decisions based on those past experiences.  When we refer to men and women, we are recalling more closer recent experiences as since we are of that category.   While semantic memory still plays a great role, we often are using the mnemonic memory of which we choose often of current societal influence.  Again our core values of who we are and what we choose to tolerate, embrace, or even discard/reject.

We all know our level of adaptability, compatibility, or even comparability.  It goes back to what we will tolerate, embrace, or even discard/reject. 



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« Reply #18 on: July 11, 2019, 06:21:57 AM »


I doubt White wash Hmong people even acknowledge eachother.  But you bring up an interesting thought.  Typically, a whitewashed hmong person would be judgmenetal and not want anything to do with Hmong people.  What would they say if they found out the other person is also whitewashed?  Argue who's more whitewashed?

This is almost funny that it hurts.  I know how I am accused of being white washed, simply because I grew up away from the most degenerative aspects what people says is Hmong culture. I grew up away from the ghetto and thug life.  Again this is where people get family traditions confused with what is actually culture.  For example, excessive drinking...is not a Hmong culture...just because certain families or individuals are doing it.  You are following pop culture...not an actual heritage.  You have adopted certain behaviors...no t actually practicing heritage behavior.  If I may so, represent it in that respect.

Also growing up...I had to represent our Hmong culture not only to outsiders but also to many Hmong refugees.  My family did not come over on a direct refugee preferential treatment from the government.  We were Christian Missionary sponsored refugee.  I/we never got any governmental assistance in that respect.  Many of times being accused of white washed, I see these accusers with TV, VCR, cameras, boom boxes...all the things that makes them more westernized than I ever was.  These people talk about eating McDonalds and I have never so much as seen burger and fries except on advertisement in the newspaper.  Yes and even I grew up in the projects housing along with them, but who's far more white washed are making such accusations?  Just like how stated, who's arguing who's more white washed?



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« Reply #19 on: July 11, 2019, 08:43:42 AM »
I love my Hmong boys, and I'll tell you why.

Because Hmong boys eat rice like me.  They grew up on pork and zaub ntsuab soup, boiled chicken (qaib vom), and know about and have ate qaib with Hmong herbs, and other common Hmong dishes, including pepper with cilantro/onion/lime.  There is just such a comforting feeling in knowing that you have a deep connection with each other because you grew up on the same food.  I love that I can conversate in Hmong with my Hmong boys. Even if they speak English more, they still understand and can speak Hmong with me.  They know what it's like when Hmong people ua neeb and hu plig even if they and I may not practice doing those things.  They know how Hmong parties are: chaotic, crowded, lively, and filled with lots of good food.  They know how annoying "Hmong time" can be but know that it's to be expected.  They are familiar with the Hmong customs and traditions, and know how Hmong weddings and funerals are like.  They've heard of and understand what it means when people say "tsov tom" (tiger bite) and "daj ntseg" (yellow ear) and other funny Hmong phrases.

There are just so many commonalities and it's just such a nice and comforting feeling to know you share a deep level of understanding and connection because you come from the same background.

BUT, I feel that my friends and my uncle may be right.  At my age there are not a lot of options if I am wanting just a Hmong boy.  If I want a Hmong boy that is a good person who's successful and single and who's my age, they're basically saying to me "good luck."  I'm not saying that I am looking because I am not in any hurry.  I'm just saying that if a man of another race has everything that I want, except for not being Hmong, I will be so sad.  Because my heart belongs with a Hmong boy.  But I know the possibility is there that I may not end up with a Hmong boy.  And this thought makes me sad.   :'(
don't give up hope!  had you listed "zaub tsuag"...i would have been on bended knees! ha! :D ;D

a hmong man nowadays has become obese (eating too many good sh!t)...he needs to go back to his hmong diets.  a woman who can cook original hmong dishes is a good house wife.  she will not only please him but his parents, relatives and friends, because they all love good hmong food.  they say find a person with common interest, it builds a strong bond and everlasting relationship.. .food is #1.

a good "hmong boy" exist, you might just have to travel a ways to find him (Laos).  i would suggest finding a hmong man who's nearby!






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Re: I Love Hmong Boys
« Reply #20 on: July 11, 2019, 05:29:42 PM »
why you keep say Hmong Boy?. Why not Hmong Menz?
Kinda odd unless ur a cougar or a Milf?. Lmao
I can not eat too much Americanized foods. I gotta have my hmong Zaub and wat not. I do my own Garden in my backyard.
I grow wat I want to eat. I got beans, onions, and Zaub, this year.
But I normally grow squash. As I love 'em boil with sugar. And keep it in the frige to be super cold. Then pour it over rice with a little piece of meat on the side with pepper.

I do my own cooking. I don't wait for someone to cook for me.


When I say "Hmong boys" I meant "Hmong men", "Hmong guys", "Hmong boys".  Oiii!  Can't believe I have to spell it out for the guys who commented in this thread.

Saki_Saki, me too!  I love boiled squash with sugar as well.  So yummy!  I love eating it with rice and beef jerky!  That's the ultimate Hmong soul food right there!   :D



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« Reply #21 on: July 11, 2019, 05:49:32 PM »
don't give up hope!  had you listed "zaub tsuag"...i would have been on bended knees! ha! :D ;D

a hmong man nowadays has become obese (eating too many good sh!t)...he needs to go back to his hmong diets.  a woman who can cook original hmong dishes is a good house wife.  she will not only please him but his parents, relatives and friends, because they all love good hmong food.  they say find a person with common interest, it builds a strong bond and everlasting relationship.. .food is #1.

a good "hmong boy" exist, you might just have to travel a ways to find him (Laos).  i would suggest finding a hmong man who's nearby!

ZDN, mmm... I love zaub tsuag.  I'm such a Hmong granny these days.  I prefer zaub tsuag to other more fancier, more flavorful food.  Zaub tsuag is so refreshing!  I love eating zaub ntsuab tsuag with rice by itself.   :)  Yum.  I also love zaub iab hau poured over rice too.  And I love dib iab no matter how it's cooked.  I even love eating it raw!  I love Hmong food.  It's soul food to me.  Hmong food makes me feel happy, warm, and fuzzy inside.  Sorry, is that weird?   :P

Anyway, I'm not about marrying Hmong guys from Laos.  I love my Hmong brothers from Laos, don't get me wrong. I'll support them financially if I am able to, but I won't marry them.  I'm sure they are very smart but I'd prefer to have a partner who can conversate with me in English the majority of the time on topics that the Hmong brothers from Laos may not be able to wrap their heads around.  I'm not looking for anyone right now.  Life is busy and I have my hands full.  Maybe in the future I'll run into my soulmate.  If my soulmate never makes it to me, that's fine too.  I'm glad we're in America and girls can be self-sufficient and provide for themselves.  It's nice to have someone to travel with, bounce decisions off of, but having a partner is not a necessity in the 21st century.



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Re: I Love Hmong Boys
« Reply #22 on: July 11, 2019, 05:53:33 PM »
Speaking of Hmong food.  I love cucumber slushy; you know, the kind where you use a spoon to scrape the inside of the cucumber into a bowl and then you add water, ice, and sugar.  That's my favorite dessert!  :D



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« Reply #23 on: July 12, 2019, 11:39:47 AM »
And I would want him to be Hmong because then we'd share the same background and that would create an instant understanding and connection between us.

while i understand the sentiment underlining this thread and what you wrote above, i would just like to say that a shared ethnicity does not necessarily equates to an instant understanding and/or connection between individuals. speaking for myself, i've met many people of my ethnicity but i've yet to meet anyone with my background or upbringing. usually, they're surprised and i find no connection or instant understanding whatsoever.



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« Reply #24 on: July 12, 2019, 01:36:28 PM »
Good luck being their mommy lilly. Lol

Words from someone wiser and older lol donít get stuck in one circle of life. Life is very colorful and adventurous, take advantage of it while you still can.



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Re: I Love Hmong Boys
« Reply #25 on: July 13, 2019, 12:10:33 AM »
When I say "Hmong boys" I meant "Hmong men", "Hmong guys", "Hmong boys".  Oiii!  Can't believe I have to spell it out for the guys who commented in this thread.

Saki_Saki, me too!  I love boiled squash with sugar as well.  So yummy!  I love eating it with rice and beef jerky!  That's the ultimate Hmong soul food right there!   :D
lmao, it's the  best wen it's a super hot outside.



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« Reply #26 on: July 13, 2019, 05:12:00 AM »
while i understand the sentiment underlining this thread and what you wrote above, i would just like to say that a shared ethnicity does not necessarily equates to an instant understanding and/or connection between individuals. speaking for myself, i've met many people of my ethnicity but i've yet to meet anyone with my background or upbringing. usually, they're surprised and i find no connection or instant understanding whatsoever.

This is huge in Hmong.  From 1 st generation refugees. to 1.5 gen and next generation.  Some generalized labels as examples...

1st gen are split into the respective traditional adapted to American society...and the adopted Rebel, Ghetto, Thug, Pop culture of American society.  Two complete opposite spectrum of refugees.

1.5 gen are basically the ones who grew up American educated.  The ones who embraces their heritage and the ones who abandoned their heritage.  Two complete opposite educated groups.

So yes shared ethnicity doesn't always equate to an immediate understanding.  There is that shared identity.  The understanding that our shared identity and our shared struggles are something that others from the outside will not immediately share that aspect.

 



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« Reply #27 on: July 13, 2019, 08:52:53 AM »
I dont like Hmong girls.

I donít want to marry the Hmong ways.

I hate being responsible to Hmong parents. I.e, cooking etc.

I go the meka way, less headache, more freedom.



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« Reply #28 on: July 16, 2019, 07:29:04 AM »
I love my hmong girls too but unfortunately I might notend up with one.  I will be a bit sad becuase Id love to marry a hmong girl for me and my mom!!

But unfortunately the good ones are already taken or just doesnt have what Id like!!

Them younger ones probably aint gonna like me.

Them older ones, I probably arent atrracted to them physically.

The dating pool as we get older is soooo small.

So id love to marry a hmong gal but I will probably endup with a non hmong gal who is cute and hot and can support me.  Blame nkaujsee for making me marry non hmong!  I told her to hook me up but she too darn selfish and greedy with her hot cousins.



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« Reply #29 on: July 16, 2019, 10:17:39 PM »
I love my Hmong boys, and I'll tell you why.

Because Hmong boys eat rice like me.  They grew up on pork and zaub ntsuab soup, boiled chicken (qaib vom), and know about and have ate qaib with Hmong herbs, and other common Hmong dishes, including pepper with cilantro/onion/lime.  There is just such a comforting feeling in knowing that you have a deep connection with each other because you grew up on the same food.  I love that I can conversate in Hmong with my Hmong boys. Even if they speak English more, they still understand and can speak Hmong with me.  They know what it's like when Hmong people ua neeb and hu plig even if they and I may not practice doing those things.  They know how Hmong parties are: chaotic, crowded, lively, and filled with lots of good food.  They know how annoying "Hmong time" can be but know that it's to be expected.  They are familiar with the Hmong customs and traditions, and know how Hmong weddings and funerals are like.  They've heard of and understand what it means when people say "tsov tom" (tiger bite) and "daj ntseg" (yellow ear) and other funny Hmong phrases.

There are just so many commonalities and it's just such a nice and comforting feeling to know you share a deep level of understanding and connection because you come from the same background.

BUT, I feel that my friends and my uncle may be right.  At my age there are not a lot of options if I am wanting just a Hmong boy.  If I want a Hmong boy that is a good person who's successful and single and who's my age, they're basically saying to me "good luck."  I'm not saying that I am looking because I am not in any hurry.  I'm just saying that if a man of another race has everything that I want, except for not being Hmong, I will be so sad.  Because my heart belongs with a Hmong boy.  But I know the possibility is there that I may not end up with a Hmong boy.  And this thought makes me sad.   :'(


I can totally relate to everything you've written. While life experiences may differ, there is something comforting and familiar about Hmong boys versus non-Hmong boys. I hope that one day you'll find your Hmong boy.



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