My coach and his gf just talked about this. When they met, he asked her out. A week later they met for coffee around 5pm. When they showed up the coffee places was closed down. So they went out for dinner instead. They had dinner, then afterward they went on a long walk. Then around 10pm they went to a bar where they had a few drinks. Drinks led to one thing and another, and by midnight they were in bed together. Funny thing, it was his birthday. But he didnt let her know until later. From there, if they wanted to hangout they did. She was super blunt and she didn’t play any games. Nor did he. That's why he liked her so much in the beginning. He noticed she wasn't needy, angry, and that she didn't play games. And on the days they couldn't hang out, there was no drama. After that date, he and her saw each other every single weekend. They just connected so much. Yeah, his gf told me she cant remember any chasing. They both have mutual respect for each other.
Moral of the story is this. They both have neutral attraction for each other. They hung out because they enjoy being in each other’s presence. She did not have to try that much on him. Nor did he.
Yes, mutual attraction towards one another is important. But more so or just as important, it's helpful for a relationship if the two people have emotional and mental attraction as well. For example, they should share the same interests, values, goals, hopes, and dreams. Same values could include desiring someone with good communication skills, someone with emotional maturity, someone who is financially independent, someone intelligent, someone humble, someone who is curious and is always learning, someone with same or similar beliefs and views,etc. Same interests could be, the same interests in reading, writing, movies, nature, music, politics, etc. Same goals could be, the desire to have x-number of kids, retire by x-age, etc. Same hopes and dreams could be, being a one-woman or one-man person, making memories with the person you've chosen, being happy, and being surrounded by the people you love on your dying bed, with the love of your life by your side, holding your hand. It's so hard to find someone who you have a genuine physical, emotional, and mental connection to who shares the same interests, values, goals, hopes, and dreams with you. When you do, gosh, hold on to that person and don't let them go!