MOST Hmong men love to pull authority and status on their wife when it comes to child care responsibiliti es. Thus result in extreme child care labor physically and mentally for MOST Hmong women and sometimes result in mental problems. I know this because one year I was not working due to job lay off and had to watch our kids and it was one of the toughest job I had ever done. Since then, I always share the child care responsibility with my wife equally. I don't know about this case but what I see in our Hmong community is that MOST Hmong men don't really help their spouse equally in the child care department. Don't get me wrong, there are good husband who share the childcare load too, but just a few good ones out there. Then again, a lot of these habits are known during the dating stage and people tend to have excuses for them even when they knew all along about the bad habits. Like you knew your gf don't like kids that much OR your bf is an alcoholic, etc.