Dude, Hmong people in California are different now...Back then, all you have to do is asked your old man to call someone, anyone who he knows, old friend, or distant, in some cases, very distant relative and say they have a son coming to visit and sleep over and they be like ok sure of course....lols Now days, can't do that anymore...too many crazies and Hmong are too many now to be consider one big family...haha might still get away attending a random traditional Hmong funeral for free food and beer though..but if you stick out like a sore thumb, they might think you're a Hmong vampire...lols