Effort in a relationship to me is...

[Believe_N_Me]

...going out of your way to do something that you normally don't do or don't have to do, but do it because it brings joy to the other person. It is also stepping out of your comfort zone, such as making a sacrifice.

This is how I gauge if someone loves and values me.

[Dok_Champa]

...going out of your way to do something that you normally don't do or don't have to do, but do it because it brings joy to the other person. It is also stepping out of your comfort zone, such as making a sacrifice.

This is how I gauge if someone loves and values me.

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[DuMa]

Take a chapter from Pierce Brosnan 007. 

His wife got Fat and yet, he takes her out on the red carpet and flossed her proudly like a shiny diamond.

So question yourself.  If you have a company's party and your significant other is not a half bag of chips, are you going to bring them to meet your co workers? 

[Believe_N_Me]

Take a chapter from Pierce Brosnan 007. 

His wife got Fat and yet, he takes her out on the red carpet and flossed her proudly like a shiny diamond.

So question yourself.  If you have a company's party and your significant other is not a half bag of chips, are you going to bring them to meet your co workers?

That example appears to be a marital obligation. I have an old school view on marriage. Most acts are done out of marital responsibiliti es and obligations. That, in of itself, is also considered love. Not the touchy-feely kind of love though.