I'm a firm believer that men do not make mistakes when they choose to marry a woman. Even if that marriage is miserable or ends in divorce, they still picked her. The man makes a marriage happen, especially when it comes to Hmong weddings. There might have been some instances where the groom was fighting against a forced marriage, but 99.9999999% of the time a Hmong wedding cannot happen without the groom's consent.
This is why Dok Champa was right. If he wants you then he will take action and make it happen.
THIS IS 100% TRUE WHEN IT COMES TO HMONG MEN.
Just look at those Hmong men who kidnap a girl against her own will! That video of the girl in Sapa, Vietnam was crying her eyes out, kicking and screaming, and rolling on the ground not wanting to marry that guy. Yet, he STILL FORCED A MARRIAGE.
Hmong women, DO NOT WAIT FOR A HMONG MAN TO MARRY YOU. Hmong men are the last people on earth for you to have to convince.
If they wanted to marry you they would do so with or without your consent.