The type of man that will make a good husband

[Believe_N_Me]

A lot of relationship sites tend to list off character traits that point to what makes a man a good husband, but what they don't list is that a man needs to be a "builder" - a term that relationship coach, Jonathan Aslay, uses.

Men who are looking to build a stable life tend to want marriage, are more committed to their wife, and make a better husband. They realize that in order to have a happy, peaceful and successful life, one needs to build it. Therefore, they place a lot of value in the things that they've built and are least likely to sabotage it. For lack of a better word, one can look at it this way: builders are creating and acquiring assets. They see value in marriage because they are looking for a trusting partner to help them oversee these possessions.

So if you're dating a man who doesn't express interest in putting down roots followed up with actions, this could mean that he doesn't have it in him to be in a marriage. Even if he enters one, it doesn't mean he knows what to do or will keep it because he isn't building anything so when the relationship sours, he doesn't feel like he has anything to save.

There are men who want to spend time and behave like a husband because they like the comfort it brings BUT they don't have it in them to actually be in a commitment and they will discard you when it no longer feels good to them. These are men who are in the relationship because of how the woman makes them "feel" and the benefits he gets from her. These are not men looking for a life mate to help them build and protect assets. 

[Dok_Champa]

For sure one that loves, respect, and value you.   Yes marriage is building  a life together but no matter how busy you are building this life (school, work, communities services, your reputation in the community, raising children, etc) do not forget each other, the needs of each others. Sometimes in life, married couple are so busy building everything else at the expense of neglecting their own needs an want.  In the end, you gain everything but loses each other.

[Believe_N_Me]

https://www.today.com/health/reason-why-men-marry-some-women-not-others-t74671

This is an interesting article about why men marry some women and not others. However, the female friend in the article is right. A man doesn't marry a woman simply because of what she does and doesn't do. A man marries a woman because he wants marriage. Sometimes a man picks a good mate, and sometimes he doesn't. ***Whenever I hear men complain about their ex(es), the first thing that comes to my mind is, "You're the one who pursued her and chose her. There were great women but you didn't choose them." Again, men are the pursuers so if they get a sour one then they only have themselves to blame.

Anyways, the link confirms everything our mother, grandmother and aunts have been telling us for years.

- older men who have been bachelors most of their lives are least likely to marry
- men whose been in at least one long-term relationship without marriage is a stringer and least likely to marry
- divorced men are more likely to (re)marry than never before-married men
- there is an age window when a man desires to get married

There are a lot more key points in the article. It doesn't mean that men don't want to have relationships. They do, but they just don't want the full commitment. However, a woman's biological clock is different so they can't allow a man to waste their best years.

[Believe_N_Me]

However, I will add that we may start to see more cohabitation arrangement among our age group as people age into their 70s. A lot of women may not want a man to have legal rights to the wealth and other assets that she accrued either on her own or with her late/divorced husband.

I know a childless grandmother who moved a boyfriend into her apartment. They are both nearing their 90s. A lot of it is for companionship only. I hear the guy is a drunkard and his adults children feel burdened by him. Therefore, they did not hesitate to help pack up his stuff and move him out of state to be with this grandmother. The two did not formally marry or anything.