If you're a guy who plans on marrying in the future to a Hmong chick, are you paying the bride dowry with your own hard-earned cash or will you be like the majority of the Hmong guys and ask your parents or family to help pay for you?
I know so many boys who married so young, but the majority of them had their parents pay for the dowry. I know boys who just take their girls home without consulting their parents first, only to find out their parents aren't able to pay any dowry right then. When I do have kids, I'm going to tell them: if you want to marry, you better have the money for this wedding and to live on your own.
Seriously, the way I look at it, if the boy or girl feels that they're ready for marriage, they should make their own money and pay for the dowry themselves. What do you think?