Let's just jump right into it...
1. A lot of Christians like to assume they know God's plan. They will say something dumb like, "You're suffering because God gave you the role of the scarified." However, they have no idea what God's plan is. It is up to the individual to try to figure that out. Unless God came down and told you to sacrifice yourself, then you have every right to change your life. These hypocrites need to review Matthew 7,
Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.