A little back story on my marriage to my ex husband.
We meet at work. I dated him very shortly when he proposed. I was never ready and I DID NOT WANT TO MARRY HIM!!!
He took me to the courthouse one day after he picked me up for work...
When we got there I asked him what were we’re doing, he said we were getting married. I said NO, I needed time to think/ time to plan etc!
He said we can have the wedding later and go do the ceremony at the courthouse first. He literally dragged me into the building against my will...When we got there he paid a fee and he picked out a date for us which was in two days to go back and say our vows in front of the judge and etc. well, I didn’t agree to it. I keep telling him no. But he got mad, and threatened me. I got scared for some reason and he asked two of my family members to be witnesses on that day. Like the whole thing was staged and planned but I had not idea what hit me until everything was done...I was still processing the whole thing but I knew I never agree to it. I never wanted to marry him and feel like I was forced and threatened into it.
After the ceremony, we were driving home he said to me,
“if I didn’t do it this way, you would of never got it done and it would of lagged and went on forever”
But I never wanted to marry him! And for many years I’m resentful of it and for myself being young and stupid!!! I felt like this whole marriage was a damn lie. If I could have it my way I would have it annulled. But I’m not sure if this is the best route for me. We married a little under ten years but close... I feel like I would never be at peace with getting divorce from someone I never wanted to marry in the first place but then again my emotion always gets in the way...
If you were in this situation would you divorce him or have an annulment?