Time Capsule

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Stay away from people who have an on-and-off again relationship with an ex. They're with you because they're currently "off" with their ex. As soon as they reconcile, they will be "on" again.

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The reason many people are not attracted to divorced people with children is because the children are what keeps divorced people still connected to their ex-spouse. But the same can be said about boyfriend/girlfriend or friends-with-benefits situationships, too, if they lived together and incurred assets. They never fully sever contact either. The older they are, the more likelihood that they will keep a relationship with each other even if it's no longer a sexual and romantic relationship. This explains why OGs prefer to take their chances with mos ab from oversea. Older singles in the USA have too many exes and friends-with-benefits who are still in the picture.

I watched a documentary about passport bros who went overseas to the Philippines to find love. There was a 60 year old white guy who said that he struggled to find a wife because they eventually got very jealous about him remaining close friends with his exes. He said that at his age, he doesn't have anybody because his married siblings are busy with their families. The only people whom he could count on were his exes (wives and girlfriends) because they're going through the same thing where they don't have anyone either. But the girlfriends did not like that and it became a big issue. The white guy was unwilling to let go of the friendships with the exes. He accepted the fact that he might not find a wife and was okay.

Well of course he was going to be okay because the exes will always be available to give him female companionship, and I don't mean sex. This tells me that the white dude wasn't ready to be in a serious, committed relationship (marriage) with anyone since he wasn't willing to give up his female friendships. People who are serious about finding a life partner do not keep opposite sex friendships. They might have acquaintances and that's about it.

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"Second Chance"

Many people say that it's not a good idea to give a person a second chance if they cheated on you. Also, if you two broke up and then went on to have other relationships, do not get back together because they now know that you'll put up with their disrespect. It is better to start fresh with someone new. Nobody is perfect but a good partner doesn't make those kind of mistakes repeatedly. Staying with them will only give you a lot of anxiety and mental stress. Once they know that they can mistreat you and you won't leave, their behavior will only get worse. Unfortunately, the relationship becomes very toxic and it's only a matter of time before the abuser will leave as soon as they find someone who can replace your supply. Or maybe they don't completely leave you but you're just another supply.

There are so many stories where the ex comes back with an STD or brings in debt that they incurred during the break up. They also create love triangles from the new relationships and so on. So much drama!

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"HEALING"

Healing brings in the gift of discernment about people and situations.

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Proverbs 13:12 says that "Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but when the desire is fulfilled, it is a tree of life."

This conveys that when hope is put off, it will lead to disappointment, disillusionmen t, and hopelessness. It will cause depression, anxiety, PTSD, and physical sickness.

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"An honest person has nothing to hide, but a deceitful person lives in the shadow."

I don't know if any notable person said that but it sure sounds about right.   

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Everyday I'm grateful that I live a very comfortable life filled with abundance and peace, and have been for a very long time. Whenever I feel disappointed (and sometimes even heartbroken) that something didn't work out, I ask myself this question:

"How would that contribute to my comfortable and peaceful life?"

If the answer is "it wouldn't", then the healing process takes a shorter time.

Sometimes people walk away because they don't want to disrupt your life, knowing that you're happy and satisfied where you're at. They feel like they would only be a burden and cause you to resent them.

Trust in God to send you the right people and the right opportunities to fill your life with abundance.

What God has for you, will always be for you.

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"Yeej Yog Muaj Tswv Ntuj Es Thiaj Li Tsis Ua Yuam Kev"

When I think about all the times that I almost took a wrong turn, I feel so blessed that I took a pause. I really believe that it was God who interceded and told me that I was already in the right place.

I used to wonder if I had missed out, but now I understand that I dodged a bullet.

Just as God sends people and opportunities into our lives, He also allows the devil to send people and opportunity into our lives. So how do we know which people and opportunity are sent by God or the devil?

LOOK AT THE FRUITS THEY BEAR.

People and opportunities sent by God will bear fruit that honors and fulfills the will of God.

It's good to take a pause because you don't always immediately see the nature of things. Especially if your judgment is clouded by old abandonment wounds, or what they call childhood trauma. The devil is very cunning. Zov zov lub qe ua cas thaum daug tsis yog me nyuam noog os, yog me nyuam nab xwb. Sometimes we hold onto things because we're hoping for the best, only to receive the worst. We then realize that we've been deceived. Our labor of love did not bear good fruit that fulfills the will of God.

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"Betrayal vs. Deception"

Betrayal is an act of disloyalty.

Deception is the act of causing someone to accept that something is true or valid when it is false or invalid.

Sometimes the betrayer knowingly deceives another with the intent of betraying them.

At other times, the betrayer's disloyalty is committed only after new options become available. 

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"Are spells real? And how do you find out if someone put a spell on you?"

A long time ago I accepted a gift from a new friend. They gave me a good luck charm because I was mourning a loss and dealing with personal issues. No one had ever given me a good luck charm before. Anyways, soon afterwards I felt eager to hang out with them and would get anxiety if I didn't see them. I started abandoning my old routines and became consumed by their presence. They were all that I could talk about. It was a new level of excitement that I hadn't felt since I was a kid in December.

Anyways, I misplaced the charm about a year into the friendship, and strangely enough, that's when I started turning to God again for healing. Whenever thoughts of them appeared, I got really intense feelings that I was and had been deceived. I picked up the vibe that they were mirroring me, and concluded that nothing they said was genuine or sincere. I did the initiating and they would simply reaffirm. For example, I'd say "I was just thinking..." and they would respond, "me too". But did they really? I didn't think so. They must've felt the energy shift between us because they began pulling away. I knew the reason why they went cold was because the truth was coming to light.

God will always put the puzzle pieces together if you ask Him and let Him.




 

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"THE VOID"

Never allow anyone to create a void in you that never existed. It's a manipulation tactic to get you to develop an unhealthy attachment to them. This happened to me and I'm just glad that I recognized what was happening. Only a person with no integrity would pull this move.

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"Dark Deeds Cannot Hide in the Shadow Forever"

We have a lot of sister-in-laws in the clan so it's just impossible to know them all on a personal level. However, one day she sat at the same table and started sharing about her clairvoyant journey with us. Turns out that the person who gave me the good luck charm is heavily into khawv koob and is associated with people who do this kind of stuff. I'm not saying that they put some kind of spell in that charm, but if they wanted to, they certainly would know how or know people who know how.