YOUR WHITE MAN RELATIONSHIP ADVICE don’t work on hmong people

[DuMa]

Love is a commitment that bears fruit. End of story.

Love is old school and over-rated.  These next generation of kids are starting to go for status first and love can take a back seat.  They can marry someone without loving them, as long as they are financial stable.  The term "gold digger" are for women.  As a guy, if I had to start over, I'll be a diamond digger.  Had the chance with an older lady with 5 pho shops in the santa ana area when I was a lot younger.   

[hmgROCK]

this is just white people’s problem

“he doesn’t respect my space”
“he doesn’t have motivation” like c’mon 50+ hour per week is motivation enough

 

[Believe_N_Me]

Love is old school and over-rated.  These next generation of kids are starting to go for status first and love can take a back seat.  They can marry someone without loving them, as long as they are financial stable.  The term "gold digger" are for women.  As a guy, if I had to start over, I'll be a diamond digger.  Had the chance with an older lady with 5 pho shops in the santa ana area when I was a lot younger.   

Okay, who hurt you?

I sense that you had a childhood trauma that influenced you to pick the wrong partner. That wrong partner damaged you.

Btw, I didn't say that to mock you or judge you, or anything. I know another PHer who is in the same boat as you.

Without commitment, there is no love.

[hmgROCK]

Okay, who hurt you?

I sense that you had a childhood trauma that influenced you to pick the wrong partner. That wrong partner damaged you.

Btw, I didn't say that to mock you or judge you, or anything. I know another PHer who is in the same boat as you.

Without commitment, there is no love.

that wicked hmong witch of the EAST
ask me "why i only buy one happy meal for her two kids"
<<< im poor and broke BTW

if im going keep continuing doing that
than we should not continue to see each other

 

THOSE ARE REAL HMONG RELATIONSHIP PROBLEM

[Believe_N_Me]

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It's not just divorced people with kids that have baggage. A lot of people who date mes kas style have a lot of baggage, too.

What I picked up from listening to those stories is that the older and more experience a person has, the more manipulative and calculating they are. They really don't know how to date for love. They only date for sex, companionship, and supply. In the back of their mind, they are already planning an exit plan or how to protect themselves should the situationship end. Sometimes a connection is good and they will still end it because they prioritize themselves first.

They've been burned too many times, and have burned others too many times. They don't trust or believe in real love.

[DuMa]

Okay, who hurt you?

I sense that you had a childhood trauma that influenced you to pick the wrong partner. That wrong partner damaged you.

Btw, I didn't say that to mock you or judge you, or anything. I know another PHer who is in the same boat as you.

Without commitment, there is no love.

It is just an understanding to the dating culture nowadays.  If you are calling me "damaged" then I'll call you old school.  You keep your old school ways of thinking when it comes to love and romance but  you need to understand something and that is the evolution of love.  Everything we have learned in our generation has become obsolete.  We now have gen Y, gen z, the alpha....

These are the gen that I'm adapting when I talk about love nowadays because as these are the reality.  Haven't you heard?  Those same gen in china are called the "lying flat or rat people" when it comes to the work force.  They don't want to work and are living with their parents till they die.  It's a reality.  Our generations have them too but it is not a rising trend that becomes an epidemic over there in china.  Our generation calls them lazy bum but I'm concerning about this new rise in this newer generation.

read more here
https://www.yahoo.com/news/chinas-broke-burned-young-workers-102018415.html

Bottom line is that there is an evolution changes and if you don't know, you better know.  Love is still over rated.  The next generations are now marrying for security first and not love.  Boarder line gold digging mentality but that's just the way it has been working in these days.  Getting marry to be rich or poor, it's a personal choice.  Not many are old school who would marry for love and accept for poor and death do them part.  Financial issue is still the #1 causal for many divorces. 

"54% of people believe a partner with debt is a reason to consider divorce "
https://www.cnbc.com/select/national-debt-relief-survey-debt-reason-for-divorce/

[Believe_N_Me]

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If you don't think the older generation married for security than you are wrong.

[JonniJacko]

A romantic partnership can be subjective. It shouldn't because romantic love is simply genuine mutual affection, empathy, compassion and intimacy...To sustain this partnership, will take understanding of changes eventually, but faith and loyalty will need to be the foundation for it to last the test of time.......

  Yup, I never been in love before....but I'm divine, and I only speak divine wisdom..Many things humans do or think is very foreign to me...hahah