There is no such thing as marrying the love of your life when you're past 45

[Believe_N_Me]

I hear this all the time from people past their mid-40s. Those in their 50s will affirm. Those nearing 60 just say "forget about it!"

A relationship at that age is purely for convenience and transactional.

An older man who chooses a woman his age or older looks for someone to perform household duties so that he has more time to enjoy his recreational hobbies, and for when he is experiencing issues due to deteriorating health.

An older, childless man who chooses a younger woman is basically racing against time. It's his last chance at leaving a legacy. This pertains to the men who actually want a child. For the ones who don't, it is purely for lust and an ego-booster.

The good news is that the women who agree to this arrangement also understand that it's about convenience and transaction for them, too.

[Believe_N_Me]

I'm actually not against this type of agreement at all, and think that it has longevity potential as long as both people uphold their vows. In fact, marriage is kind of a transaction anyways where each person is expected to fulfill a role. If you take the emotions out of the equation, it might actually keep everyone sane! No anxiety, no unmet expectations, and certainly no unhealthy attachments.

 

[AppleBrook]

hmmm...i think it is never too late for love aka marriage.  marriage is broad.  it can be for love, caring, sharing or the like.

[Believe_N_Me]

It's really just to have an emergency contact.

That's what they tell me. lol!

When a man says that there are always women, that's what he means. He is just looking for a transactional relationship that works for his circumstance.

[Dok_Champa]

Love is love and no such thing as the love of your life.  AND yes even at 45, 50, 60, 70, a person can love and find love.  Any age, love is hard to find but when you do find it, keep it, work to keep it.

[theking]

A relationship at that age is purely for convenience and transactional.

Very ignorant of you due to your narrow mind but NOT SURPRISED coming from you.   

FACT says, it's not just "purely for convenience" as reasons can vary...

[JonniJacko]

For women, it's harder...much harder if not impossible...I f her body count is more than one....Yeah... it's near impossible, spirtually- it's impossible...L OL

For men, he'd probably have to pay and buy love from someone, usually much younger....

So yeah...I tell people, men and women all the time---get use to being alone, learn to embrace solitude, be self reliant, and will either kill your libido, or make your intention clear with others tha tyou just want to hook and release. lol

[Believe_N_Me]

If they tell you that they are with the love of their life then they are lying.

No such thing if they've been in several serious relationships.

Perhaps the "loves" of their life - notice the plural???

A woman whom I went to school with has been living with an old, white guy in his late50-mid60s for a few years now. This dude looks like Santa Claus. She, on the other hand, was a very beautiful and desired girl back in the day. Her ex-Hmong husband was also very handsome, smart and came from a well-to-do family. She was crazy in love with him. But they eventually divorced.

She told me that this white dude is good to her and she is content. NO way in h@ll would she have been attracted to him if we're being honest here. But now that she is much older and divorced, she is looking for different things in a partner.

Not exactly the love of her life but good enough to feel at peace.