Perhaps she has a nice insurance policy on him??

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My dad’s wife put doughnuts in his mouth after he had a stroke instead of calling 911 — now I’m trying to mourn him without anger
DEAR ABBY: My brothers and I loved our father. He was an alcoholic until he was 37. After he stopped drinking, we became the best of friends. He was both mother and father to me, and I was so proud of him.

Dad remarried 33 years later to a woman I can only describe as diabolical. At first, “Selma” was full of compliments and smiles toward us. After they married, my father’s glow and his relationships with us turned cold and clinical. He could call us only from his car when he was alone. Holiday celebrations stopped, and Sunday family dinners stopped, too.

When Dad had a serious stroke, instead of calling 911, Selma went to a neighbor’s house to ask what she should do. Then she grabbed two doughnuts and put them in his mouth. Dad survived. After he returned from rehabilitation, my brother and I had arranged to have a chairlift installed because of the number of steps in his home. Selma went ballistic! She threatened Dad that if he allowed us to visit or have the lift installed, she would leave him.

Three weeks later, Dad had a catastrophic stroke and was flown to a new hospital. We weren’t informed until a day later. Gratefully, we did get to spend a few days with Dad before he passed.

I now feel enraged because of her years of lies, manipulation and cruelty to my father and us as a family. The second I think of her, her face, her words and our last interactions come flooding back, and all I feel is hatred. I want to be free and able to mourn without anger.