I couldn't find a topic that relate to what I want to know. Hope no one finds this topic conflicting.
Church goers & Traditional doers:
When people offer "Nyiaj Tu Siab" to the family.
a. Do you say "thank you" to the giver or to God/Jesus?
b. Do you still pull them aside and "Ua lawv tsaug"?
c. Do you still record their names down?
Giving should be about giving, right? Should people feel offended if they are not thanked?
Please share your thoughts and give advice to those who are curious such as me.
a. A simple thank you for paying your respect is fine...
b. No
c. Yes, for those that are OK so I can send them a thank you card later.
When I'm paying respect and the deceased's family member(s) come over to kneel and say thank you, I usually don't allow them to do that. I tell them a simple thank you is sufficient, no need to kneel.
If one of my family members died and I don't do the kneeling thank you either as it's not necessary in this day and age...
Different folks, different strokes but a simple thank you has worked for my family over the years with zero issue...
Should people feel offended if they are not thanked?I'm not as I understand the family is going through a tough time so whether they thank me or not is not a big deal...