Just because someone doesn't want to speak Hmong or they want to speak Hmong but can't, doesn't make them less Hmong than anyone else. Especially true is the fact that just because someone can't speak Hmong, doesn't automatically mean they hate themselves, they hate Hmong, and they are trying to distance themselves.
Also, the fact that you are Hmong doesn't mean you have to revolve your whole life choices and lifestyle around some silly notion of fulfilling some imaginary duty of "making Hmong relevant". Case in point, I don't see how you can judge a group of Hmong men playing basketball and say that what they choose to do on their free time is invalid and a waste of time because it's not relevant to being Hmong.
Especially some of you Hmong girls! After the advancement and progress of Hmong women in this modern society, how can you look at another group and pass judgement and say "That's not Hmong enough." That sure sounds a lot like "You're reading a book. That's not Hmong woman enough. Go serve some drinks or wash dishes." The nerve!
Bottom line, this subject is a joke. It's just like inner-beauty - anyone can say anyone is beautiful and anyone can say that someone is not beautiful with no merit or proper critique.