So, let's say, your very close cousin, like first cousin sees you but didn't mention anything to you about a party. Then, a few days later, you hear it from your sister (not brother) that your first cousin's throwing a Hmong party and everyone's invited and asks if you're going. You say, he didn't mention anything about it to you, but your sister says "We're family, you don't need to be invited, everyone's invited". Do you still go because you heard about it or say no because you weren't invited?
If you don't go, people will ask, why you weren't there. You can't say you didn't hear about it because your sister already told you. What's the best thing to do?