When a married hmong woman doesn't work; the mother-in-law is quick to judge and tells her son "Get rid of her, she's useless. She's lazy. She's dumb. Stop being her slave."
But when a hmong son doesn't work. The mother-in-law tells her daughter-in-law "Be patient with him. Take care of him."
When the daughter-in-law is sick or disabled and can't do much. The mother-in-law and son is quick to judge and will hop on to another female quick. Abandonment at its best or like some men says "survival of the fittest." The mother-in-law will say "Allow your husband to marry a niam yau so that the new wife can help around the house and help you too. Since you are disabled and can't do anything."
When the son is disabled and the daughter-in-law is the bread winner, the mother-in-law will say to her "Please be patient with your husband. He is disabled and can't do much but your kids need him. So, do your best to take care of him and forgive him for what he lacks since he can't help take care of the family."
Pretty stupid. Hmong people are like that. Men are selfish like that. They will abandon their hard working good wife if she becomes ill. Yet women tend to stick around and cope with it and help their spouse until the very end. Bad hmong mother-in-laws are also like that. If they have a good daughter in law but never like her, this is the fastest route to get rid of her. But oh behold! If its her son, she doesn't want the daughter in law to abandon him. Psh...hmong aws.. Why do I find myself hating Hmong people and men in general when I see this too often??!
Men, why would you abandon your sick wife when she always stood by you?
Women, would you hang on or abandon?