Here's a back story of my friend's family history:
His older siblings told him that he has to take care of their mom because he's the youngest son according to the Hmong culture. He's fine with that as his mom took care of him and raised him. What he's not fine with is his older siblings lack of contact with their mom i.e., no visit, no phone call....
His mom would complain to him about how his older siblings don't care about her but he can't do anything about it as they are older so they should know better. His mom also complained to her Hmong friends about how much that breaks her heart as those older siblings are within driving distance to visit but hardly ever do.
But when it comes time for a big family event for their mom, they'll try to show off to other Hmong folks about how much they care and love their mom by throwing a big expensive party. Although the older siblings hardly ever visit or call their mom, when it's time to show off, they demand that my friend should help out too financially even though he has the least amount of money and resources. Plus, those big show off family events are not his idea and other Hmong folks that know the family already know my friend does all the caretaking.
The reason my friend has the least amount of money is because he had to put a lot of things aside i.e., education, turning down good paying jobs due to conflict with providing care for his mom, etc., so he can take care of his mom. He's never been married because taking care of his mom was his primary focus. He felt it was the right thing to return the favor since his mom took good care of him and raised him when he needed her.
His older siblings hear the complains from other Hmong folks but they still hardly ever spend time with their mom whether in person or on the phone. It bothers my friend when his older siblings come up with these big expensive family event ideas just to save their faces and still have the gall to ask him to pitch in. I can't say I blame him as he's already done more for his mom than all of his siblings combined over the years.