Umm...
It's not petty little things...
I was talking to this girl once...
Not talking like dating... but just talking as in talking...
She was telling me about her bf at the time...
And he's kinda the same way... play games all the time and is kinda messy etc etc..
and I told her... little things like that can break a relationship and marriage(she was going to get married to him at the time)
If stuff like that already bother's her during the dating process... you know it's going to bother alot more during marriage..
At the end of the day, you two just aren't compatible. You love or now it sees like you're more invested in him than he is in you. Is there even love there? I also know how it is, becuase he doesn't realize it but he's taking it for granted that you're always going to be there, that you'll never leave, more like the thought of you not being there with him never crossed his mind.
And also, you two's value's aren't compatible. Obviously it bothers you. I aint telling you to get a divorce and date me but.......
I work out all the time(when I'm not sick or just can't make the time) we can work out together! I'm not going to complain! I would love a work out buddie!
I can cook my own food! It's not tastey but I can feed myself! If I'm hungry, I'm not going to wait on my wife to cook for me! I make scrable eggs and use the rice cooker pretty good.
I too like a clean house, not messy and upkept!
And if there's snow?!?! we're moving south! I did live in chicago for a while and I know how to deal with snow.
Anyways on a serious note, you two's value's aren't compatible. And no, those are small petty things.
And I want you to know... guys really don't change..
They are how they are...
you gotta ask yourself, are you going to be happy with dealing with that year after year?
I got a story, I have younger brothers... I guess they never understood or knew the concept of having a clean house...
This was when we was little.. I'm like 10 years older than them...
anyways, they was making a mess, my two younger brothers... I told them to clean up! and I was mad.. I just didnt like seeing all that mess, what they were doing was just cutting papers..
So then I thought I would just be messy like them so maybe they would be fed up with all the mess too and start to clean up..
So I took alot of paper and started cutting them and throwing them everywhere... they just looked at me like I was crazy and the didn't mind the mess at all.
To this day, one of brother is still messy.. when I go visit him, his bedroom is atrocious! My other brother, he's married now and has kids and prior to that he went a different path in life and he's actually not messy.
So yeah ladies! be picky! Be careful who you choose! All those little knick knacks during dating that you didn't think would bother you and you thought you could deal with later on or fix... it will still be there after marriage and it will actually bother you.